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Abolanle (Bola) Aloluwaloba

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Abolanle (Bola) Aloluwaloba, NCPS

United Kingdom

NCPS counsellor - Anger and relationships

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Key details

  • CredentialsNCPS
  • RegistrationNCPS, United Kingdom / NCS18-06308
  • Experience5 years
  • LanguagesEnglish, Yoruba
  • LocationUnited Kingdom

About

  • ACT
  • CBT
  • Attachment work

About Abolanle

Abolanle (Bola) Aloluwaloba is an NCPS counsellor in the United Kingdom with five years' experience. She works with adults on issues such as anger, parenting, anxiety, depression, grief and relationship concerns. Sessions are offered in English and Yoruba. Bola emphasises practical change and clearer thinking rather than labels or quick fixes.

Bola uses a collaborative, client-centred way of working. She helps people notice patterns in thinking, feeling and behaviour that keep problems running. Clients often explore things like past hurt, attachment wounds, and how stress or loss shows up in everyday life.

Her approach draws on several methods including Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Attachment-Based Therapy. These tools are used to build skills for managing emotions, improving communication, and making values-based choices. Sessions are conversational and focussed on concrete steps between meetings.

Bola emphasises the person's commitment to the work. She supports people to test new ways of responding to anger, resentment or overwhelm. That might include practising grounding, shifting unhelpful thinking, or learning to recognise attachment patterns that influence reactions.

Practical goals are set together so progress can be reviewed. People who want a structured plan for handling temper, stress or relational tension will find a straightforward, skills-based focus in her sessions.

How sessions work

How her approaches work for online sessions

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) focuses on spotting values and taking small committed steps towards them while learning to live with difficult feelings. It helps with anger that comes from frustration or unmet expectations. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) looks at the link between thoughts, feelings and actions and gives clear strategies to interrupt unhelpful patterns like snapping or rumination. Attachment-Based Therapy examines early relationship patterns that shape how people react to closeness, rejection or loss and can help explain repeated anger responses.

Finding the right approach is part of the work. Bola will talk with the client about their story, goals and what feels most useful. Together they decide which methods to try and adjust the plan as progress unfolds, keeping the process collaborative and practical.

Session formats are not specified in the biography, so please confirm current options before booking. Online work can make it easier to fit sessions into a busy week, reduce travel time, and allow shorter check-ins when needed. It also lets people practise skills between meetings where they normally encounter frustrating situations. Registered or accredited professionals can adapt exercises for remote sessions, and Bola uses techniques that translate well to an online setting to focus on emotion regulation, communication skills and behaviour change.

Areas of focus

Areas of expertise

Primary focus

Parenting issuesAnger managementSelf esteemCoping with life changesADHD

Also works with

Stress, AnxietyAddictionsRelationship issuesFamily conflictsTrauma and abuseGriefIntimacy-related issuesEating disordersSleeping disordersCareer difficultiesBipolar disorderDepressionCoachingCompassion fatigue

Additional focus areas

AbandonmentAttachment issuesAvoidant personalityCaregiver issues and stressCommitment issuesCommunication problemsControl issuesDivorce and separationDomestic violenceEmptinessFamily of origin issuesFamily problemsForgivenessImmigration issuesInfidelityIsolation / lonelinessJealousyLife purposeMidlife crisisMoney and financial issuesMulticultural concernsObsessions, compulsions, and OCDPersonality disordersPhobiasPolyamory / non-monogamous relationshipsPostpartum depressionPrejudice and discriminationProcess addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)Self-harmSexual assault and abuseSocial anxiety and phobiaWomen's issuesWorkplace issues

Therapeutic approaches

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)Attachment-Based TherapyClient-Centered TherapyCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)Existential TherapyEye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)HypnotherapyJungian TherapyMindfulness TherapyMotivational InterviewingNarrative TherapyPsychodynamic TherapySolution-Focused TherapyTrauma-Focused Therapy

Experience

5+ years

Listed in

United Kingdom

Languages

English, Yoruba

Questions

Frequently asked questions

What concerns does she work with?

She works with adult concerns including anger, parenting, anxiety, depression, grief, addiction and relationship issues.

What is her therapeutic style?

Her style is collaborative and client-centred, using practical techniques to change thinking and behaviour over time.

How much experience does she have?

She has five years' experience working as a counsellor in the United Kingdom.

What credentials and location are listed?

She is registered as NCPS and practises in the United Kingdom.

Which languages are supported?

Sessions are offered in English and Yoruba.

Are international clients accepted?

International clients are not currently accepted.

How are sessions paid for?

Cost varies with location and sessions use a subscription that can be cancelled at any time.

How do I begin working with her?

Use the See online therapy options button, complete the short matching questionnaire, and schedule a first session.

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Online talk therapy is not emergency care. If anyone is unsafe, use the crisis numbers.

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